I moved to another state with a suitcase, a backpack, five hundred dollars and a student loan. It’s a funny thing, going through all of your belongings, deciding what you want and need and what just isn’t going to fit. I was faced with the question you’ve only asked yourself if you’ve tried to start completely anew:
What do I need to bring when I’m leaving everything behind?
There are a lot of uncertainties that accompany a move. Even if you’re just moving a few miles away and into a similar sized place, or you’re leaving temporarily, there are lots of unknowns about your new home. There is stress too, from going through all your belongings. It’s an eye opener to have everything you own packed away in boxes, and the space where it used to live so empty. I believe it’s a taste of a past life, one where we as human beings used to move from place to place, chasing the seasons and leaving to look for more than what we had where we sat.
It’s hard to know whats going to happen when you leave. Will everyone forget about you? Will you meet new friends and family and grow fresh roots? Will you make it out there? There are lots of things to consider and decide in a move, one of the biggest being packing. Especially if you’re moving from a cold climate to a hot climate or a hot climate to a cold climate. I was moving from the top of the Pacific North West to Southern California, and had never even visited the place I was moving. I saw it for the first time when I arrived. Needless to say, I was pretty high-strung in the days before my flight, and I probably made a dozen lists of what to pack. In the end, the best way to prioritize and organize my limited luggage was with three categories.
Things that are replaceable are of little or no sentimental value, they are extras or multiples, and they are also inexpensive, and not terribly difficult to find. For example, shampoo, flip flops, lotion, band aids, mugs, dinner ware and pretty much all of your cooking items, sheets etc. These things can be tricky to identify, because they are typically basic essentials, but they take up too much room and the cost of shipping it all would be the same as just buying it new when you arrive.
The biggest worry when getting rid of things is that you might end up needing it. The way to resolve that worry? Imagine you do get rid of that extra pair of shades and you end up missing them or really needing them. Couldn’t your just get another pair? Or make do with the first pair? Would it really be so difficult without them? Try to solve the hypothetical problem. If the solution is easy, or the dilemma not exactly an emergency, then you should be fine without it.
Items that I deemed essential are the opposite of replaceable. They are things that are on the spendy side, they’re one of a-kind, and things that you wouldn’t get very far without. For example your medication, electronics, identifying documents like your drivers license, social security cards and birth certificate, as well as things like a good jacket, shoes and your glasses.
These are things you need to live. Not things you might need sometime, but items you use or wear pretty much every day. It different for everyone. I really needed to bring my computer and chargers, as well as my hair clippers that save me money I would have to spend paying for hair cuts every few weeks. Sometimes it’s not obvious either, but when you take a few minutes to think about it, you realize your sketch book and marker set you doodle with all the time are totally essential.
This category can be difficult, because it can be hard to leave behind knick-knacks that you collected on vacations, or gifts from family and friends, but it’s important to only pack the things that will give you joy and strength instead of the things that will hurt your back carrying or give you a headache trying to organize. Things you should let a family member hold on to or give away are heavy or fragile things like dishes, snow globes, jewelry and artwork. Other things to leave behind include large or otherwise cumbersome things like furniture.
I did end up bringing a few sentimental things that broke the rules, like large stuffed animal turtles a dear friend got me, a mug from my sister and photos, but they make me happy, and as long as you limit yourself to just a few small or lightweight things you’ll be in the clear.
How to live is the question we are all trying to answer. Settling, moving, more or less and with who are the important things, the rest are just details we figure out along the way. The truth is, you are responsible for your own happiness. Wherever you go, whatever you have, you are the navigator of your own life. I think day to day, we get so caught up with the “problems” we’re facing, and we forget that we are not bound by fear or worry, or by things. We are capable of so much more than that, we as humans are powerful, you are powerful. We’re not like trees, that stay still and are bound to the place they were planted. (Most of us) were born with feet and legs and brains that dream, we build cars and trains and planes and boats and space ships to go places because we’re explorers. *que the Intersteller soundtrack* We evolved to travel beyond what we know, to see and experience.
This life is too beautiful to not explore it, and too short to not seek out happiness wherever it might be.